It can easily end up feeling hopeless and you feel helpless. Not someone like me. A person with BPD may have the inability to view others more realistically as a mix of good and bad qualities. However the couple of times I suggested this we just fight and nothing came from it. My perception as a child was that I was, in fact, the cause of her turmoil. I got itchy, restless, looking for distractions to avoid looking at myself, my escalating issues, facing the things I didnt understand and trying to fill the void when you werent there. Sometimes we take a preemptive strike by disowning people before they can reject or abandon us. I just love this letter. Thank you fit writing this letter and for your blog. And it also made me aware of a lot of my behavior that i was never aware of and now i have a better understanding of some of the things i do and why. For example, a male with BPD may engage in frequent binge drinking of. I want to get help, but I know we have no money. Mind Australia Borderline Personality Disorder Family and Carer Group. Reading also helps me manage my own destructive thoughts and feelings. The one thing I would add is that people with BPD need to recognize that no matter the rationale for their actions, they do hurt people, and hurt people have a right to their feelings as much as people with BPD have a right to their own feelings. Thanks. DUHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH. An Open Letter From Myself, With BPD, To My Loved Ones. Everything in it's perfect timing. I am a 39yr old female who recently got diagnosed with BPD. Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a mental health issue that causes emotional instability and can affect how people manage their moods and interact with other people. I hurt you again and my fear of abandonment means Im searching for a different outcome each time. I have passed it on to my family and friends who support me. I NEVER RELAX. I'd use this (edit it of course) if I was getting the help I need. I am a DBT therapist and work on an intensive DBT unit with adolescents. I tried to be responsible. I think it's easy to ignore these symptoms because unless the BPD is totally irrational, the symptoms can be blown off as just overly emotional or a hard to deal with personality. It's not your fault. All we can do is pray at this point. I would never fall inlove and start a family. Help your loved one through their BPD. The struggle may get easier, but it will always be there. Now she teaches DBT, has written several books and has a blog called, Previous post: Finding peace amongst the turmoil, An Open Letter to People who do Not have Borderline Personality Disorder from Those of Us who Do, this blog (Healing from BPD by Debbie Corso), Remind yourself that the persons behavior isnt your fault, Tap into your compassion for the persons suffering while understanding that their behavior is probably an intense reaction to that suffering, Do things to take care of YOU. Smiles, Well here goes. I know it always comes out wrong. A person with BPD can act in impulsive and often dangerous ways. Wow does this roller coaster ever end??? It's a horribly helpless feeling to watch someone you love in pain. Australia. Not what i wanted but almost lost all since of myself. She emailed me later saying that it was passive aggressive behavior and that she "gets it" I am the one who ended it. My mother does want to help her, but she won't help herself. As I read your open letter, I tried to imagine my daughter saying this to me.how very helpful! They said that it was more important to show me how much they love me than to go on long vacations alone. So thank you. About 1.7% of American adults have BPD in any given year, according to the National Institute of Mental Health. You sound like the type of person who deserves as much love and acceptance as you give out x x x Reply freewillg Additional comment actions Having BPD is no picnic, either. Why? It's common to experience other mental health problems and experiences alongside BPD, which could include: Anxiety and panic attacks Depression Eating problems Dissociative disorders Psychosis or hearing voices Bipolar disorder Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) or complex PTSD Sleep problems I was seeing these people through a program that is now over. Debbie you have said what we all struggle to say. , There are still some professionals who are not up to speed with the treatments that can effectively help those with BPD. Thank you for being who you are. The most inspiring thing about what she said is that Marsha Linehan, the founder of DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) recently came out as having BPD! very extreme that the relationship is badly skewed, and shouldn't go on. It's a commitment, but I fully intend to be there for her and listen and work through it when she's ready. She also has recently gotten more busy and a tighter finical situation. I admire all of you, everyone of you, that can speak out! OMG. I haven't spoken to him for a week., and he hasn't contacted me. BPD symptoms can include complex and unhealthy thought processes, anxiety, poor self-image, and dramatic mood swings. Once calm, the family can together have an open discussion and achieve setting small goals for the person with BPD. , You are a brave and kind man. You can find even more stories on our Home page. If only we all got it laid out like this. It was both painful and hopeful to read it. You deserve to feel safe. She blames our divorce completely on me, taking no responsibility at all. There is nothing you can do to fix it. They actively seek to control the perception of BPD in the same exact way they try to control how they are perceived as individuals. I'n sending a hug to you . Just let her know I sent you, and she'll be happy to help you get started. She cant acknowledge there is a problem, much less attend therapy or consider consulting a therapist. "People with BPD are like people with third degree burns over 90% of their bodies. It was a touch and go for 3 days. So when a parent exhibits BPD symptoms, and the child becomes the target of these behaviors, it impacts who they are and who they will become. thank you. Whatever. Refresh the page, check Medium 's. For me as I gained more experience and I saw the positive changes DBT can lead to, this helped me to avoid that particular trap. . I find it so hard to put into words my struggles but you have done it perfectly. Please be aware that this might heavily reduce the functionality and appearance of our site. A Letter From a Woman with BPD I got an email from a woman with BPD. Debbie, Hi Kat thank you so much for sharing. You don't have to be completely "healed" to pursue your dreams. BPD is also sometimes known as 'emotionally unstable personality disorder', but even that label feels somewhat prejudiced to me. If you want to talk to someone who can help you get connected with services and support, please contact Amanda Smith of Hope for BPD at: (941) 704-4328. Thank you so much for your openess, dedication and help. Debbie,I just LOVE LOVE LOVE your honesty and compassion. Maybe Debbie wants to add the Ducht version at her list of translations on her website? I watched her deteriorate before my eyes and her children, too. Read it and notice the many lessons within: === "Hello Rick! , I am so glad that this letter has helped you find some more compassion and understanding for your daughter. I so desperately want you to understand. You have to find the tools that work for you personally. , Hi Tea You're welcome, and thank you as always for the kind feedback. On the other side of the coin, we may have outburst of anger that can be scary. Hope you are well! Impulsive behavior is a primary symptom of BPD. Thank you for your kind comment. I feel forsaken by both her and the hospital that is supposed to be helping her, but has instead ruined our marriage. Everyone is that way for different reasons so how do you know if you deserve for example to write a letter like this to give people around you so they can "understand" and not feel so bad about the whole situation. It's hard not to appear defensive when she is asking for explanations as to why I've done things. Juliette Virzi. This is an open letter to anyone willing and/or needing to listen. I have absolutely no desire to go since my mother, who is one of my past abusers will be there , and I would rather slit my wrists then be around her because she triggers me CONSTANTLY and seems to enjoy doing so Please help me. I am doing 99% better now that I got proper treatment for the eating disorder. Now that I know she has BPD, it is too late for me to do anything more to help her. Every single time you pick me back up when I'm shattered into pieces on the floor. The intensity with which you felt those emotions is probably equivalent to what a person with BPD feels on a regular basis. Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a long-term pattern of "abnormal behavior" that is characterized by an unstable sense of self, emotions, and relationships with other people. Your letter really helped us become closer, as it explained some things in a way that I cannot yet. Here are some ideas: Not all of the situations I described apply to all people with Borderline Personality Disorder. I've learned how to focus on the important things and how to handle my emotions. I would try to calm him down by reminding him how much I love him and that I won't give up on him. Thank you so much for writing this, I am putting it everywhere I can. Maybe he'll come back to me. She has left several times before, but this time I don't see a reunion. These cookies collect information that is used either in aggregate form to help us understand how our website is being used or how effective our marketing campaigns are, or to help us customize our website and application for you in order to enhance your experience. Your email address will not be published. Just try.Won't work. After finally being diagnosed with BPD after hospital stays, hurting multiple people, trying med after med and more. Using this website means you're okay with this. Anxiety about relationships, making efforts to avoid being abandoned. Why is it that my therapists tell me that BPD is a useless diagnosis that doesn't do anyone any good, yet I fall into nearly every criteria for the disorder and have since I was a teenager? And now with this kind, loving man by my side I feel comfortableand so he gets the wrath of this chaotic mind. Children are malleable, they are clay being shaped by their parents and by their experiences. However, it isn't helpful for their children in the same way. I wish you strength and hope as you do this work, and please always remember to also take care of YOU. Then I was abandoned againwe all know about that. You always can block or delete cookies by changing your browser settings and force blocking all cookies on this website. Impulsive, risky behaviour. People with BPD have various triggers that can set their symptoms in motion. You believe you cant get close to anyone because you will love them so much, and they will inevitably hurt you in one way or another, and you will overreact and do or say something that ensures they decide they cant be around you. Thank you for sharing it with this forum. This site uses cookies to give you the best, most relevant experience. While she was packing one day I played some Mavericks, southwestern country music I thought she would enjoy because that's where she is from. That some people really are willing and even eager to help, and that makes me smile every damn time. I have been inspired by people here and I want to share my experiences with everyone as well! Click to enable/disable _gat_* - Google Analytics Cookie. I pray that she is able to find a place where you are now. Thankyou, I can only imagine the courage it must have taken for you to write this for us! Early on in our diagnosis and before really digging in deep with DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy), we dont have the proper tools to tell you this or ask for your support in healthy ways. Forgot those important facts. She has told me when she gets this sense of impending doom in the past is when she ends up in the hospital, which she has made it over a year with out being hospitalized. My wife, whom I believe has undiagnosed BPD, was hospitalized in February for SI. 4. The best thing we can do during these times is remind ourselves that this too shall pass and practice DBT skills especially self-soothing things that helps us to feel a little better despite the numbness. I am about to go to my brothers wedding and a ton of my family will be there. It can be hard to witness someone's pain, and one of the pitfalls for therapists is to lose faith in the person going through the therapy, particularly when building up one's own DBT skills. Hello thank you so much for sharing. Thank you so much for sharing.You have so many people you need to reach.If only I could help in some way. Thanks for giving others hope by being a partner who is interested in learning more about his girlfriend's condition, and please also be sure to use very good self-care and seek support for YOU, too. Maybe there is hope or support out there but i can't figure out how to know who deserves it and who doesnt and if i try think about it i just panic and get nowhere, make things worse, so i was wondering what your thoughts are as this is obviously a subject you have much experience with. This is very hard!! I'm hoping it will help myself and also my husband out. The letter and all the post did help me a little tonight tho. Just let her know I sent you, and she'll be happy to point you in the right direction. I'd at least come to an understanding of what it is, how it works, what it does before she did. I am a mess. Refresh. Dr. Marsha Linehan, founder of DBT, likens us to 3rd degree emotional burn victims. I feel helpless, powerless to get my feelings accross. Linda, thank you for taking the time to share these thoughts, as they will no doubt help others who read this post and scroll down to see your comment. You are toxic. You are not the cause of our suffering. It makes a difference for us!! All of this is new to me, just as it is with so many others, and as much as I would love the help of regular therapy I know that I have to help myself - but it is HARD. But you say it is possible to recover to heal have hope and a normal life. I have had to go No Contact because when I do contact him, my addiction to him leaves me suicidal with depression. Debbie. Changes will take effect once you reload the page. One must only have 5 symptoms out of 9 to qualify for a diagnosis, and the combinations of those 5-9 are seemingly endless. I think you are the first Norwegian to tell me about her BPD blog. The reason being, that it is common knowledge for those with mental illness to understand how damaging social stigma can be, but I believe it is just as damaging to read numerous success stories about people who have suffered themselves. Don't let people (in my case a doctor) tell you that you will always be like this, that there is no way out. A Brief Look at My Life with Borderline Personality Disorder. Hugs! Your mind, your body, are completely taken over and you end up doing something you regret deeply but have to live with. This is my second year . We may do very dramatic things, such as harming ourselves in some way (or threatening to do so), going to the hospital, or something similar. Other have said it, but I need to add my voice Thank you for writing this. Thank you so much for your honesty and strength. Every single time you embrace my stable days when I'm the peachiest version of me you ever get to experience. Common triggers include rejection or abandonment in relationships or the resurfacing of a memory of a traumatic childhood event. I want to know that humanity can be beautiful. Which has had a negative impact in my own life and relationships. Thank you, and best wishes for the future. Thank you so much for this letter. I have strong reasons to beleive my exfiance has BPD. Having empathy, or an understanding of BPD, does very little in terms of helping someone heal from, or protect themselves from, this abuse. I had no idea what the heck it meant to have BPD. We provide you with a list of stored cookies on your computer in our domain so you can check what we stored. Celebrities and Famous People With Borderline Personality Disorder. My girlfriend has BPD, and I've been at my wits' end, not knowing how to deal with it. Share your story, message,poem, quote, photo or video of hope, struggle or recovery. It was so overwhelming that is when they diagnosed me with severe depression and panic disorder after taking a long test and seeing several drs. I'm really glad she did; now I can see mistakes that I've made dealing with her, and I know how to be a better and more supportive husband. Your email address will not be published. This isn't to say that they're evil. If you have BPD, you may have had work experiences that upset you, the people who worked with you, or both. Its like every step I had ever taken to better myself since my diagnosis, just never happened. Thank you. This insidious illness is as we know is the relationship killer. After the latest episode she tells me that I have to earn back her trust. Intense Emotions: When Present Events Trigger Past Trauma. I am a male who's spent the last three and a half years dealing with a partner with BPD, do not give up, there are people who love you enough and are strong enough to deal/fight through this with you. She has latched onto a fiction that I was mentally abusive towards her and refuses to co-parent in the interest of our son. But for what it's worth you're brave for writing this letter, and i hope for the people who are genuinely affected by this condition, they are heard supported and loved as they definitely don't need anymore shit. Offer to visit the doctor with them, spend quality time with them doing something you both enjoy, and tell them you love them. NAMI Hope can be returned. Debbie, Hi Damask thank you so much for taking the time to write such a beautiful comment. A certain song, sound, smell, or words can quickly fire off neurological connections that bring us back to a place where we didnt feel safe, and we might respond in the now with a similar reaction (think of military persons who fight in combat a simple backfiring of a car can send them into flashbacks. But now that i know i have BPD and i know what it means I feel like I will eventually have control over it. Love, Linda <3. Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) affects roughly 2% of the general population and comprises one fifth of all psychiatric inpatient populations. heartbroken77 Consumer 0 Posts: 12 Joined: Wed Nov 25, 2009 4:23 am Local time: Mon Nov 28, 2022 2:16 am Blog: View Blog (0) You carried on with our children, with your job, with our house and you dragged it all with you like Wonder Woman. I have suffered with BPD since I was 11, I didn't get help until I was 34. I wish more people could understand what it's like, but you're right- we don't know what it's like for them to see us this way either. Or if you don't deserve that because there is nothing for them to "understand" because i have no real excuse for being this weak pathetic crazy annoying and hurtful person? The last few years have been very tough for me on a personal and professional level, but it is always good to read other peoples experiences and how they manage their day-to-day lives. A trigger is something that sets off in our minds a past traumatic event or causes us to have distressing thoughts. The following are trademarks of NAMI: NAMI, NAMI Basics, NAMI Connection, NAMI Ending the Silence, NAMI FaithNet, NAMI Family & Friends, NAMI Family Support Group, NAMI Family-to-Family, NAMI Grading the States, NAMI Hearts & Minds, NAMI Homefront, NAMI HelpLine, NAMI In Our Own Voice, NAMI On Campus, NAMI Parents & Teachers as Allies, NAMI Peer-to-Peer, NAMI Provider, NAMI Smarts for Advocacy, Act4MentalHealth, Vote4MentalHealth, NAMIWalks and National Alliance on Mental Illness. I wish you peace. Thank you for taking the time to leave such a kind comment. We had to behave in ways that would please the caregiver at any given moment in order to stay safe and survive. I am a non that just recently gave up after 4 years of chaos. Now, multiply that feeling times ten and that is what a person with BPD considers intense emotion. All i can say is it is a very long process. Overall, being an event planner can provide a sense of purpose and fulfillment for individuals with BPD. Furthermore, this grandparent generally claims to be perfectly well and claims that there is something wrong with all the rest of us. Its difficult, after all, to relate to others properly when you dont have a solid understanding of yourself and who you are, apart from everyone else around you. The more I read about BPD, the more I have a hunch that the girl I'm in an LDR with has been living with this or at least a similar pattern dissociation. being transgendered i was unable to get appropriate medical help because i was told my gender disphoria was "identity disturbance". Thank you very much for your perspective. If you refuse cookies we will remove all set cookies in our domain. My hope is that you will gain new insight into your loved ones condition and grow in compassion and understand for both your loved one AND yourself, as this is not an easy road. Once diagnosed BPD, always BPD. I am grateful for this letter. I have BPD and I'm currently in grad school to get a Master's in social work. I came across this link on tumblr while browsing and I felt compelled to respond from the perspective of the BPD's child. I am sorry you didn't have a happy childhood. Dear *My Name*, I wanted to write you and tell you that I'm sorry I couldn't (or didn't) make it work with you. I guess I'm not doing that well enough. Last week however i still was in the dark and thought i was just depressed. From 1947 to 1965, the state was known as the Romanian People's Republic (Republica Popular Romn, RPR).The country was an Eastern Bloc state and a member of the Warsaw Pact with a dominant role for the . I wish I could get my husband to read this. I am so glad that you believe it will be helpful. I accept the consequences of my actions and how they have affected you, I didnt realize then how much it affected me too. She is a wonderful Woman and I love her with all my heart, my life, my everything. This is called splitting, and its part of the disorder. A normal life can be had. Its that extreme. Through Dialectical Behavior Therapy, we can learn how to regulate our emotions so that we do not become out of control. I can't believe they still employ me (which reminds me I'm am Thee master of self-sabatoge)Every day I am paranoid, anxious, overwhelmed. Initially I thought we just fell out of love and she was unable to deal with that reality (like maybe she needed a larger reason like alcoholism or abuse rather than just drifting apart). 50 reviews of McLean Hospital "You know what? Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT. Thank you so much for your comment and for sharing your own progress. I want to point out that you have a lot of clarity and insight into what's been happening for you and your desired boundaries around your family. I'll buy them groceries. intense mood swings including outbursts of anxiety, anger and depression. We havent outgrown this. Deal with the label in a way that makes sense to you. I don't know what to do anymore. Distancing can also trigger all kinds of abandonment and trust issues for the "BPD" partner (as described in #4). Click to enable/disable _ga - Google Analytics Cookie. I loved your letter. That book made me see that there are good people in the world. Well I better get off this pitty pottyMy Daughter just called and she is Barking also. That can make you act erratically. She is restarting DBT group in a few weeks. Borderline personality disorder is a pattern of instability in interpersonal relationships, problems with self-image, intense emotions, and impulsive behavior. I was in denial until 27 years old. Can you get it without having a BPD Dx on your file? I am so torn. She read some of your other posts and she said she could see a lot of similarities between us. People with BPD may experience just a few or all of these common signs and symptoms: Extreme or unstable emotions. I thank you for writing this. It's all chaos. I think about dying every single day. He is aware of his disorder and I saw him fought many times. That is wonderful. Win a copy of my new book, Stronger Than BPD! I'm looking forward to reading more of your blog. I can't help it. My fiance has BPD. Not all of the situations I described apply to all people with Borderline Personality Disorder. I've been blamed by doctors who put me on these meds that I'm on too manyand the last one (after I discussed BPD he's a complete idiot and asked *me* what the therapy "DBT" was called) said to me, "You have a serious personality problem", in response to me answering how I'd been doing. I briefly contemplated not telling my story because of that very fact, but have decided to post it despite that fact. (BPD & The Internet), The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Wellness Planner by Amanda Smith, LMSW, Remind yourself that the persons behavior isnt your fault, Tap into your compassion for the persons suffering while understanding that their behavior is probably an intense reaction to that suffering. You never know thoughit could end up being really helpful to hear from others who are going through the very same things as you. They see the behavior as maladaptive, as troubled, as abnormal. I really appreciate all of the kind, encouraging words you've offered here. Privacy Shrug. I figured it out, but only through trial, error, therapy, a good online support group and a lot of introspection and self-care on my part. It's not a rash or a broken bone. If my sister would actually seek out the help she really does need, instead of expecting everyone to conform to her ideas and expectations, I would be a little more hopefully. 7. A year ago, I could not have written this letter, but it represents much of what was in my heart but could not yet be realized or expressed. ~ Dave M. This comment has been removed by the author. This is the most dreaded Dx to come across according to my colleaguesif it was so bad, why would it be my problem? This is coming from the mouth of the same guy who proposed to me last year. I can only hope with every breath in my body that she can be 'cured' and live a normal and happy life. Sometimes I hate him. I was petrified of losing you; the intensity of my emotions, the world and the endless possibilities absolutely petrified me. Any therapist helping a child of a borderline to recover will recommend that they protect themselves from the abuse and their abuser. She feels fully justified in treating my mother with all sorts of nasty abusive language and accusations. Personal trainer. Yesterday, I had to say goodbye to a dear friend of mine, because I became emotional and said things I never should have. I was petrified of losing you; the intensity of my emotions, the world and the endless possibilities absolutely petrified me. However, looking back, all the signs were there, but I just didn't see them. Something wasnt right, but you still lay down next to me every night. I need frequent reminders of this, because if I dont it feels like I will lose faith in humanity completely, and that will shatter every belief I have ever held dear. She spent years in a mental hospital when she was younger now look at all of the people she's helped and continues to help. An Open Letter to People Who Write About Borderline Personality Disorder | by Rivka Wolf | Invisible Illness | Jan, 2023 | Medium 500 Apologies, but something went wrong on our end. It's seriously messed up. My boss surely think I'm a nutcase. This is called dissociation. I never agreed with the diagnosis either for myself and realized I actually have complex PTSD. Maybe we should bandage our heads and hearts. Someone with BPD might feel fine one second and then really angry or upset the next. She's 30 years old. Remember that your words, love, and support go a long way in helping your loved one to heal, even if the results are not immediately evident. You *can* overcome this disorder! It has resulted in many failed friendships and rejections, one failed relationship, and has damaged my current one (why he has stayed, I don't really know). I had my breakdown in 2003 at 39 yrs old went from happy and singing to feeling like I was being watched and crawled under my desk at workscared too death to come out and feeling like a little girl. We are highly emotionally sensitive and have extreme difficulty regulating/modulating our emotions. 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